How the hell do us blokes ever manage to bag a girl?
I am asking this question because I have found myself watching a small selection of chick flicks over the past few evenings.
Yes I watch chick flicks. Sometimes out of choice. Some of them are quite good.
Stop judging me.
During my feminine film fest, I have noticed that there are two types of chick flicks.
The 'find Prince Charming and my life will be fantastic' chick flick and the 'unappreciated woman overcoming her peers and becoming a strong woman' chick flick.
Most of the time these get mixed together and you get the 'unappreciated women finding Prince Charming whilst overcoming her peers and becoming a strong woman whilst looking fabulous' chick flick.
Regardless of the title on the box, you can guarantee it's always going to be pretty much the same old tired story with the latest 'it' thespians filling in the roles of 'damsel in distress' and 'Prince Charming'.
Yes I know it's meant to be fictional, film is escapism etc but these films promote some insanely high requirements for any man attempting to 'woo' a woman.
Do men 'woo' anymore?
Do we even say 'woo' anymore?
Is the fact we aren't 'wooing' or saying 'woo' part of the problem?
Divorce rates are higher than ever and people aren't getting these 'happy endings' we were promised when we were younger.
Is this because life just doesn't worj out like that or because we are preconditioned to have these set standards that chick flicks tell us?
Looking at the chick flicks key demographic, the female gender, they have been raised with the ideals of the fairytale life from childhood.
Chick flicks are the logical graduation from classic Disney.
There is even a 150,000 member strong Facebook group titled 'I blame Disney for my high expectation of men'.
This ideal is the hunky, fantastically charming (and usually British or at least very well spoken) gentleman who sweeps the insanely 'perfect' or 'nerdy, unattractive looking who gets good looking, but extremely unsuccessful and overlooked female off her feet with a backdrop of a series of moderately comedic incidents, allowing her to get the man and the success all at once.
'Get hot and even you can succeed at life!'
Women should be outraged by this message, but for some insane reason they love it!
Women always seem to want to watch these films about the young, plain (well, plain in Movieland) girl who gets the perfect guy by completley changing who she is and I just don't get why women want to watch this.
Is the fact that the protagonist changes herself to get the guy overlooked because she gets this 'perfect' man?
Maybe studios are catching on though as there are some small victories for the 'everyman' occurring within the genre.
I recently watched 'The Holiday' and with the exception of Jude Law and Kate Winslet being forced to read the Americans version of 'British' dialogue (ie 'Oh bugger it. It's all gone frightfully wrong'. It's not bloody Merry Poppins!), I enjoyed it.
This is primarily due to Jack Black's character.
Here is a short, not fantastic looking guy who is funny and charming and ends up being the object of desire for Kate Winselt's character, and it's not done in a matter of 'oh, she's settling for the funny little chubby man' but as 'heartfelt' a story as the relationship development between Cameron Diaz and Jude Law, who spent the majority of the movie humping each other and feeling 'frightfully awful' about the 'sticky wicket' they had found themselves in.
Chubby man and the Winslet's relationship has more substance. Interesting.
We need more realistic characters in chick flicks.
The world is not full of these 21st century Prince Charmings and Cinderellas yet we are encouraged to look for these people and not settle for anything less.
Even the female protagonists in these films have the same problem.
We all remember the sofa and ice cream scene from Bridget Jones...and any other generic chick flick.
But it all works out for the better once they get the man, once again reiterating that this is what they should be aspiring to.
'Shallow Hal' is one of my favourite films of all time.
It's not brilliantly written or beautifully shot, but what a story!
We have this male character who is filled with the typical chick flick ideals of the 'perfect girl' and we see how much of a jerk he comes across as for spending all his efforts trying to get the 'hot' girls.
After some psychic jiggey pokery he can only see the inner beauty of women and falls insanely in love with a rather, quite overdone, plus size woman and they have their 'happy ever after' even after he see's her for how she really is.
We need more Jack Black's in chick flicks!
Why can't we have 'normal' looking people in these films?
I am fortunate enough to have found the special gal I want to spend the rest of my days annoying and I am quite obviously not fitting the archetypal 'hunk', more of a 'chunk', that all these films are telling women that they should be chasing after so what are us blokes doing right or have women just given up the dream?
Steph loves Disney and still watches the flicks at 22 so what is it that girls love about these films?
Girls, let me know what you think.
Do women still have this idea of the fairytale ending?
Are you still after their Prince Charming or have you sculpted your own?
Are you settling for 'chunk' rather than 'hunk'?
Guys, does watching these films make you change who you are?
Leave me a comment below!